Nobody compares to her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Basically im a 17 year old sixth form student at my former high school, during my school time about last April I met a girl who was in the year below me, we met at park gatherings where everyone would have a drink. From the day i saw her i said to my best friend 'she would be the perfect gf',shes beautiful,cute and smiley although none of us really spoke to her cos there were so many people, we use to smile at one another and say hello. Once the summer was over i was still having lots of no strings attached flings (Not Sex!) then about October time i decided to comment her myspace, she replied and then we exchanged MSN's. We got talking and it was all nice conversation, then for a while we wernt on at the same time so we would speak twice a week at most maybe, we still never saw each other at school though. It was quite clear i liked her a lot but i wasnt giving anything away, anyways the conversations continued until about December and on the 21st i went to party and one of her best mates came on to me so i made out with her. Then about a week later after not speaking to the girl i liked for about 3 weeks, she started talking to me on msn, she asked about her friend i said it was a party thing and she was like yeah cool, then within about 40 mins she asked me for my number. We text solidly for about 4 days and said we liked each other, i could have cried with joy to think my dream girl actually likes me. Early January she had a gathering and invited me round hers, although we never really spoke in person before it went really well and i ended up staying at hers and we spent the night cuddling up, i felt on top of the world. Everything was going well and then in February she had tonsilitis so i didnt see her for 2 weeks, but we text everyday and when i finally saw her and i went to a club up london with her and her mates, she was already drunk when i met her but she didnt kiss or hug me all night and paid little attention to me, cos i was with her mates it made it even more awkward, we made up on the way home and text that nigt,however we didnt speak the next day so the day after that i text her is everything alright between us, she said she stressed she didnt know if she wanted a bf cos shes got a lot going on, i kinda mugged myself off by getting emotional because she's amazing. We didn't really speak for a bit, then like we started building our friendship back up and this time i went for the humerous approach cos last time i wasn't clingy just sensitive and emotional. It was all going good even though deep down i want her cos i miss the little things like a 'hey babe' being replaced to a 'hey x' or a 'love you' to a 'xxxx'. Shes as good as it gets and iv had my fair share, anyways last weekend i was in london and i got a random text 'you in the pub love you' i text back yeah i am so she text me i miss you can i come meet you after, she then rang me and agreed to get a 30 minute train to meet me!, she done this behind her friends back who she was with earlier in the night cos they dont really want her having a bf so seeing me wouldnt be good, she told one of her friends beforehand she was gonna secretly meet me before i knew myself which suggests it was planned. Her mate didnt think it was a good idea as she may come on to me again, but yeah we met up and the girl i feel in love with was finally back after about an hour of holding hands she made the move to kiss me, and she ended up staying at mine and we were making out most of the night. Now im scared she totally regrets the whole thing completely , we spoke as friends the evening after mine but its been 5 days now and we havn't really spoke. What do I do? what appraoch do i take? I need her desperately im not showing my hurt but im hurting a lot, i havnt got anybody else
Well, I think you should contact her immediately and get back into the swing of things with her. She may be worried that you just used her and then lost interest. You have to make sure she understands how much you care for her and how much you miss her.
This sounds like a small misunderstanding that you can clear up easily.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com