mii mind wont make itself up!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
mii ex and i had been over for about a year now.. and then he got with this other girl. and i was sooo mad, and jelous. and then i talked him into going out with me again, so he broke up with her, and i broke up with mii bf.
it didnt take much. all i had to do was tell him that i missed him and he broke up with her.
i just am having these feelings.. like i realize WHY we broke up in the 1st place.
he promised me over and over through out the year that he had changed, and he was better now, but there are just moments when .. i just doubt that.
in the past he was:
but he didnt hit me.. he just hit the wall.
i helped him become less and less violent, and now he hardly ever shows any sign of violence.
he has changed in little ways for me.. but i just sence something is off.
and i also cant stop looking at other guys.
i am attracted to so many other guy friends.. but i make miiself stop before i get miiself mixed up in any drama.
i miss mii ex.
and this guy whom i had a thing with earlier in the year.
i just cant seem to make up mii mind.
one day i like ___
then the next i love -----
then the next week i love ======
its on and on.
when i didnt have mii b now, [who was mii 1st mentioned ex] i felt like i was making miiself sick. i know i love him.. but there is just something wrong.
idk wat to do with mii confusing love life.
i know the answer should be obvious, like, well if u dont like the way he is , then he isnt right for you. if u miss your ex, go back to him. basic little answers. but mii feelings are so mixed up that i cant settle on one answer long enough to go through with any of them.
i feel like, sine he did me wrong when he cheated on me, i am inadvertantly getting him back.
idk its weird.
i dont mean to, its just i cant help but feel soo attracted to another guy.
i must sound soo messed up.
help me ?
Yes, you are messed up, but don't worry too much about it because many kids your age are messed up too. It called growing up and your body and mind are changing and are sometimes out of control. It's scary but fun too.
It's a wild ride and one way to slow things down a little is to decide what you consider important in a friend. Boys should be friends before they are boyfriends. Think about it. You want a friend to be trustworthy, caring, funny, communicative, affectionate and lots of other things. When you see a boy, you can't really make up your mind until you know him better. Otherwise you are just crushing and lusting. Nothing wrong with that but you are looking for something better, right?
Take this opportunity to meet lots of boys and learn to judge them as to whether they are worthy of you. If you try this, you will learn a lot of social skills and develop a way of deciding what is good for you and you won't be confused too much.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com