On Off patterns on a Woman
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey George... Its me Devil, the guy with an ex that studies in Swiss.. I hope that my name still ring a bell =)
Its been sometime since my last post, things kinda get sorted then unsorted again, the turn on off patterns from girls is really driving me crazy... And thank you George for always being there to listen my problems..
Here is our current condition:
A month ago is the time when i finally decided to stop calling her that often.. She told me that she needs some private space and since that me and her are no longer in a relationship, she wouldnt have to report everything to me..
For the first time i didnt call her and msg her at all, she didnt call me too.. till the 2nd day, she finally rang me up, and we talked a while.. this has been going for almost 2 weeks where i completely didnt call her at all and she'll be the one that call me every 2-3 days..
On the 3rd week, we met each other in the club. I heard from her friend that my ex told her that i've finally given up on her and she felt nothing bout it.. During that time, my ex actually came to me and wanted some 'public affection'... She came up to me and kiss me in front of her friends twice and she sat on my lap with a position that my hand would be able slip under her skirt and touch her private parts, she didnt stop me from doing that...
but on the 4th week, she stop calling me already... Now both of us would never talk to each other that often anymore.. I've try and ask her out, and she'll say when i feel like it i'll tell u... I'm not really sure why is she doing this to me.
I really wanted to give her everything i could when i'm still possible.. To be able to be there for her when she needs it.. but i can sense that shes not really into any commitments yet.. That is why they say ''the light is too painful for those who wants to stay in darkness''
What choices do i have in my current condition? Should I start to call her back and let her know that i still care?
You should certainly let her know that you still care.
She has had her space and now is the time to try to get closer to her again. If she continues to want more space, at least you have given it enough tries. Have you tried asking her out as "a friend"? Maybe you can get your foot back in the door that way.
It goes without saying that you should be gentle about how you approach her because you could drive her away if you are too forward.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com