Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I am the one who has been writing in about the shy woman age 29 that I met in October 06. Since writing last week I had a strange incident occurr. Yesterday I passed her in my vehicle, and to my surprise she waved at me. I was totally shocked. She waved at me! I was so surprised that I think I waved back in time for her to see me. But at 30 MPH in a vehicle, sometimes people would miss the wave.
Anyway, I am shocked as I said. She seems to be making a very small effort on her part. Last year when I would pass her she would turn her head away. Now she is waving.
I want to contact her so bad, but once again I am scared to death of her shyness. I saw this yesterday, and I am so in love with her. How do I make a move here? How should the contact happen. By Phone?? By E-Mail?? Should I wait to run into her somewhere? My heart was pounding, and my hands were trembling when I saw her yesterday. I am in love, and there is no turning back now. Any more advice you could offer would be appreciated. Thank you for all of your advice so far.
It is great that she waved at you. That is your signal to contact her. You must do this or she will become shyer. A shy person needs someone steady who will take the lead and not be wishy-washy. Fortunately you have been that person but you need to be stronger.
My advice is to email her first so she will have time to think about it and not be upset by face-to-face communication. Tell her thanks for waving and that you hope she got your wave back. Tell her you would like to see more of her and that you will be calling her soon to suggest something to do.
Mention some of the ideas I gave you about quiet non-threatening things to do. Don't bring up to many new thoughts in the email. Steady goes it. Ask her if it is ok to call.
Don't come across as too high-energy or demanding. She needs a quiet, patient manner to soothe her jumpy nerves.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com