Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my fiance for almost 7 years now. When we first started dating I was only 17, he was my first bf. I didn't know what I wanted at the time, I just knew or thought that I was in love. At that time I made alot of promises that I thought I wanted out of life, like to live in our hometown and other stuff. Well when it came to moving for college he came with me, now we have a house together and 3 dogs. Not only this but I am his neice's godmother. So I am feeling like I am stuck in this position, like even if I am not with him I will forever be surrounded by him. For a while now I have not felt the same way that I use to. I know or believe that he is truely in love with me. But, I do not feel the same, I have even cheated (kissed), just recently, another guy at a bar that I went to. And I don't even feel guilty. I know that he has been going on the internet and sending dirty emails to some girls, even his picture, and that didn't even bother me, I don't care. I need help on how to end this relationship as nicely as possible. When we have gotten into fights in the past, where we almost broke up, he had threatened to end his life or said that he didn't even care to be alive without me. It is almost like I wish he would fall into love with someone else and him to just cheat on me and that be the end. I would love to be friends because I view him as one of my best friends and I do love him for that, but only that. Please help me I am stuck!
Now that he is active on the Internet perhaps he would not be so distraught by the thought of your splitting up.
In any case, you need to find a professional counselor to help you (not you and your husband) to figure out how to handle this. If the counselor decides that you husband should be brought in, then do that.
Do something about this. You shouldn't waste your life living miserably, you only get one time around.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com