A friend... or more?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I really hate to do this to you *cringes*, but I did check all the tips and other questions and I guess my situation is really specific. And I apologize in advance for this being so long.
Yeah, so this is another does-he-like-me question. I'm a freshman in high school and I have a huge crush on this guy who's a sophomore. I know him because he rides my bus and he was also in my study hall up until last week, when he had to switch out.
The problem is that I don't know how this guy feels about me at all. Normally I would never think that he would like me because I am overweight and unattractive, although I must admit that I am an amazing dresser. But anyway, this guy and I became friends. Not great friends, but friends. Over the past week we've become even closer, like talking more and sitting together.
The reason I think that he might be into me is because we sit together on the bus every day and he holds my hand. At first he would give an excuse, like that his hand was cold and mine was warm, but now it's natural for us. He strokes it with his thumb, which I do back to him, and sometimes holds my hand in both of his. I don't think this is something you normally do with a friend, but this guy is very strange, so I have no idea. I also rest my head on his shoulder sometimes, which he intimated by doing it to me first. I think that he must know that I'm into him because my sister said that EVERYBODY on our bus knows because it's "obvious."
Somebody asked him if he liked me and he didn't answer, which was when I quickly changed the subject. I would feel really weird asking him if he was interested in me or whatever, but none of my friends know him enough to just come up to him and ask him what the extent of his feelings are. I also don't want things to become awkward with us if he says no. How can I find out without making things awkward or embarrassing?
Also, how do I flirt with him? Yes, I've read everything you have on flirting, and also looked up tons of things online, but they all say things to DO and how to act and what I really want to know is what to SAY. Can you suggest some flirty things that I can say to him that will let him know how I feel?
I'm really sorry that this is so long. Also, I think that you guys are doing a really great thing.
Well, this is an easy question to asnwer... he likes you.
The way to tell is that he holds your hand and rubs your hand with his thumb. Also he put his head on your shoulder and now you put your head on his shoulder. Now you should move things along by putting her hand on his leg down by the knees. Just rest it there.
Ask him to hang out or go to a movie.
As far as flirting things to say... it is better to just have a happy conversation rather than trying to be flirty or witty. Start a game with him where one of you says a word and the other has to think of a word that begins with the last letter of the previous word. For example: you say LOVE (see you can be flirty :), then he says EVEN, then you say NEW etc. You can slip in sexy or flirty words whenever you want to.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com