Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My fiance and partner of almost 3 years left me a month ago, when she left she said she had never loved me and we shouldnt talk again, i messaged and rang all the time to try and fix things but this didnt work so i stopped and since i have stopped she messages or calls daily and i have found out through mutual friends she is telling everyone i am the nicest and best guy she has ever been with and will ever be with. She recently told me she thinks to herself she should be with me but for some reason talks herself out of it???
I'm terribly hurt and confused, any advice would be greatly appreciated i dont know which way is forward from here.
You are on the right track when you stop trying to contact her.
Instead, find interesting things to do... things she would enjoy doing with you. Take a trip, go to a museum, a concert. Word will get back to her and she may want to join in. Consider asking other women out. If your ex is having second thoughts she may cave in if she finds out you are dating.
No matter what you do, you are taking a risk. That's what is so confusing and hurtful. If she mentions it, tell her you are so confused and hurt that you need to find an emotional outlet to get you through the pain. She will understand that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com