Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have been dating this guy for 2 months. We couldn't get enough of each other. His parents loved me and my parents felt like he was part of the family. We'd text each other daily if we didn't see each other. I started going out with him because we had so many interests in common. He asked me if i ever thought about having a long term relationship, i told him yes. A month into our relationship he said he was falling in love with me and i told him i was falling in love with him too.
Everything was going good, but then his work started giving him more stress than usual. He works 8 hours, 5 days a week and has night classes. He wasn't getting enough appreciation at work and wanted a new job. His parents were fighting with him in front of me which stressed him out even more. The next day his sister called me(i don't know how she got my home number) she wanted to know if i wanted some extra hours for work, since we work at the same company. i told her i could use the hours, so i told my boyfriend were i was going. He freaked out said he doesn't like it when his family gets involved with his relationship or invades his personal life. He was ticked off the rest of the week, but said he wasn't mad at me, that i didn't do anything wrong. He replied to my text messages, but seemed very depressed. I wanted to make him feel better. By Friday he was unsure about the relationship. He just got over a 2 year relationship with a girl that cheated on him. He doesn't know if he is ready for a long term relationship because he doesn't want to get hurt. i told him i never want to intentional hurt him ever and i never flirted with another guy while in a relationship never mind cheating. The next day he told me he needed some space to think. So i am trying so hard to give him space, but i think i already fell in love with him. It's been 5 days since i bugged him last. What do I do or how to make it better? i miss him so much. i'm 20 by the way.
His stress level is the problem.
The additional stress of what his sister did and the prospect of having another long term relationship has pushed him over the edge.
My advice is to let him cool down for another week and then contact him with a cheerful "How are you doing?" He will probably reply nicely and you can begin to rebuild your relationship.
Seems a reasonable thing to try.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com