Why couldn't he say it?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I was seeing a guy for about four months. It may sound like a short time, but I havn't dated much in my life. It was great and I fell so hard for him. I have never been in love before, but I loved him. He was so good to me, he talked to me, but i knew there were things just about his life he wasnt telling me, but that was fine. So, a couple months into it I felt like I needed to say something because I didn't want to set myself up to get hurt. and he assured me i wasnt just sex to him and all this stuff. Everything was normal for a while and even better. And then he started to not call me much and when he did it was the middle of the night. and then i show up to a mutual friends house and there he is flirting away with some girl. I said something to him about how he should have just told me he was done, and he went on about being sorry, he's just insecure, and its not that he doesnt care about me but he doesnt know what he wants. So i basically asked him to tell me he was done. If he didnt want to see me anymore i needed to hear it, and he couldnt say it. then, i show up to another mutual friends house and there he is with the same girl. It just hurt. I handed him the chance to tell me he was finished and he didnt take it, but he obviously was. I cared about him so much but why couldnt he just say it?
He didn't want to hurt you face to face, so he allowed these accidents to happen.
You need closure on this, so why not tell him that since he clearly is interested in someone else you would rather break up with him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com