Im happy but doesn't know what to do next!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
The last time I wrote to you about my next move saying how I got him a dog tag for his birthday and he was so overcome with emotion that he kissed me on my neck while hugging me and he hugged me really tight and wouldn't let go and how we two had a normal conversation on msn that night. He was thanking me for the gift etc. I asked whether I shall hug him when we see each other after half term and you said yea but don't be too neutral otherwise he will put me in the friend category. Today my friend said to me that she chatted to my ex over the half term on msn and she goes she asked him whether he miss me etc but the thing is i just came to know about it today. I had no clue about it since I didn't ask my friend to ask him them questions. When my friend asked him whether he miss me, he goes "when I broke up with her I proper thought about it afterwards but then I saw that she was happy and move on kinda thing, so I decided that I should move on as well but I do miss her." He is still single by the way. Then my friend asked him whether he will ever get back with me and he goes "Not at the moment but maybe later, who knows what might happen in the future." I am actually happy hearing all this since my friend told me about it this morning. I am pretending to be happy to show him that I can live without him and thank god he doesn't actually think that I am pretending. Today at lunchtime, he came to meet my friend and my friend and I were together since we had the same lesson. He came and my friend gave him his birthday gift (a teddy bear) and then he hugged her saying thanks, then he came up to me and I opened my arms and he hugged me really tight again and then I let go. He was happy when he hugged me I can tell because he didn't expect that I was going to hug him and he smiled. Then afterwards he smiled at me again and gave me his maths homework to hand in to the teacher since he went home early. Then he said bye and he wanted to hug me again I guess but I just said bye, I didn't open my arms and he kinda held ma hand like snap his finger kinda thing while holding my hand. If u get what I mean:S So now I want to know what shall I do next? What do you think is on his mind? Should we talk to each other about it? If yes then what shall i say to him? If i do talk to him about it first, won't I sound desperate kinda thing? What do you think of this whole situation?
THANKS A LOTTTTTTTTTTTTT...
Well, you came out with six questions in the last few lines. I'm not sure how best to answer.
Overall, things seem to be going well with you two. Your friend probably shouldn't have put her nose into the situation, but she was just trying to be helpful.
Yes, you two should talk about it and you should be honest about how you feel. This won't maake you sound desperate unless you actually are. But, from the way you expressed yourself to me, you don't sound desperate, just interested in him. He sounds interested in you two so it should go well.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com