Why can't I get her out of my mind?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am a 28 year old guy, my ex is a... ok... maths time.... a 22 year old girl....
We were 25 and 18 respectively when we met on line. We communicated by Email and on-line chat for nearly 6 months before meeting face-to-face. I will never forget the first thing she said to me when we met. She simply smiled and said "see, I'm not that scary am I?". I'd have to say that I was hooked right from that moment.
One of the great things about her is that when I started to tell her quite personal details about my disability she said "I really don't care about that. When I look at you I see YOU, not the condition".
Anyway..... I'm rambling on and on, which I know you guys don't have time for, so I'll cut to the chase....
We were together for about 11 weeks over Christmas and New Year (Summer here in Austalia) Just before we met in person she admitted that she was finding it hard to decide between dating me and this other guy she'd also met on line, but in the end she chose me. You can't imagine how that made me feel that she'd chosen ME!
On Valentine's day I went to her house to pick her up for dinner etc and there was this other guy there who I eventually found out was the other guy she met on line. He was so easy to get along with and seemed like such a nice guy etc.
Anyway, we got a cab to the city and had a great time that night (which by the way I paid for everything as my "gift").
The evening after Valentines day we are chatting on-line and she says "I've got something to tell you, you're not gonna like it...." She confessed to cheating on me only a week after we got together with the "friend" I'd met the night before! No need to say it was splitsville from that moment.
The weird thing is that even with this dramatic turn of events I still can't get her totally out of my mind after TWO YEARS (almost to-the-day).
Now I'm slowly realising that every girl I meet I almost fell like I'm dooming it from the start as I subconciously seem to be comparing certain aspects of these girls back too my ex.
There are also so many things in day-to-day life that still remind me of her.
How do I forget my ex and move on???
(PS: Sory for making this message so long! believe it or not this is actually a shortened version of what I was going to send!)
You're hung up on a woman from two years ago who you only went out with for a very short time.
My advice is to seek professional counseling to help you understand why you are still thinking about her. Two years is too long to suffer--you need to move on.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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