When Will We Get Married?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now. I'm ready to get engaged and start planning our future together. He talks about our future all the time, but I'm starting to feel like it's all just talk. What should I do?
It's great to want milestones, but that's all they are, random spots in the sand when you're walking the entire time. Why not talk about your future together now? If you're saying you want KIDS then that is something to talk with him about, and when you'd like to do that. You can work backwards from that point. But if it's a more nebulous "I want to be married!" I'd hold off. Being married is far more stressful than not being married and if you aren't talking well about your future now, it would only get worse. So talk about your future, about the things you want and start setting expectations like "I would want to have my first child in 2 years". Things like that make the date-setting a little easier.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com