Not attracted to a friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
its recently come to my attention that a good friend of mine that ive known since highschool is very into me and i dont feel the same way.
He spent most of last year in britain and came back for december and Jan. Hes going back in Feb and during his stay i decided im also gona work in the uk this year. im leaving end april.
I lost my boyfriend in a car accident in september, and although I'm fairly open to another relationship, im just not open to one with my friend, so i cant very well tell him im not ready to start dating again and the next day he spots me walking down the street hand in hand with some other guy. Hes going to be helping me with some funding in going to the uk so i cant break it to him harshly that im not interested and make things awkward or bitter. i'll be giving the money back to him immediately so im not in any way taking advantage of the situation. We spend a lot of time together so if i back off now its gona send up red flags.
I really want to go to england and i cant afford for this to screw things up. Im gona be sharing a flat with him and another guy as well. He hasnt told me how he feels (thank goodness) but if he does i duno what to do! Please give me some advice im very stuck
If he doesn't say anything about having feelings for you then keep quiet.
If he says he likes you then explain nicely that you think of him as a friend.
Hopefully he won't be a creep and hold back the money.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com