Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Have been married for the last 12 years. Late last year i noticed that my husband was cheating on me. He started coming late at night so i started monitoring his cellphone and i got the no. of the lady she was moving with. I called the lady and we abused each other on phone. ok my husband agreed that there was something almost coming up with this lady but promist it is over. He told me he had borrowed this lady money so that is what is between him and her. I told him if he is genuin when paying back this money i should acompany him and he agreed at first. to cut the story short later he has refused we take the money together. My Q is is my husband realy ready to stop this relationship or he is just fooling me? Do you think my idear of taking the money together is ok? What is the way forward? Since that time i have been having very bad attitude towards him will this come to an end?
Your idea about taking the money together is a good one.
First is shows that you are primary in his life
Second it proves that he is actually paying her back.
Better still, you should take the money over to her but that would probably go over like a lead balloon.
He is the bad person in this situation, so you have the upper hand about what goes on.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com