Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ive been dating this guy for like a year and three months.. we've talked about getting married and having children and stuff its just that he dont seem to be doing anything for it to happen.. at age 25 i would really want to get married and start building a new life with the man i love.. my bf seems to be confused on what he wants..at one point he's with me but then next he's not.. he says we need money before we can do that...i understand his point but maybe we can work on it together..im not asking him to marry me like tomorrow with a very fancy ceremony..what i asked him is with a judge...im now thinking that maybe he doesnt want to marry me at all..he's just stringing me along til he finds the one that he wants to marry.. what should i do.. i love him to death..and i feel he loves me back...i dont want this thing to be the cause of a break up.. how long should i wait.. i dont want to open the topic up again coz i dont want to look desperate... please help.. ****fyi, our background is like no divorce, strictly catholic, marriage before pregnancy*** he's actually in to it too...i wanted to have a baby badly.. what should we do...please help....
You are going to have to bring it up again, pleasantly and lovingly.
Figure out what you want and explain it to him.
Perhaps you want to live together and work on saving money (maybe you could decide together on how much you need to save); getting married (a simple marriage with a estimated date like a year from now); having children.
If he is unwilling to discuss this or if he won't discuss it realistically you had better realize that maybe you aren't going to get married. Then decide whether you want to stay with him for an indeterminate time until "something happens."
Can either of your parents help out financially?
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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