Lost on what to do
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and girlfriend had been going close to a year (about a week away from a full year), however due to some trust issues of mine I broke up with her, this wasn't the first time I had broken up with her so she decided it was best to wait it out and not get back together for now. She tells me she loves me and wants me back, but needs time to think, and she fears I will break up with her again, and she also said I needed to change back to how I used to be, less jealous, more loving, more trusting. We both have classes together and we still talk on a frequent basis, should I stop this? I am already taking steps towards changing, including therapy, but I don't know if I should continue to hang out with her and talk to her in class so soon or if I should give her space? I am willing to do what it takes to get her back, but I am not sure if it's a good idea to still be hanging out with her as much as I do, would that put me in the friend zone and ruin my chances with her? Or would distancing myself from her cause to start moving on?
She also told me that once she saw if I had changed we would see what happens, so even then I might not get her back, but I'm most worried about my prevous dilemma
You seem to have almost everything working for you, given the circumstances.
She still loves you, talks with you, and is watching to see if you change.
You are getting therapy (which is very important both for you as well as to show her that you are serious about changing.)
My advice is to leave things the way they stand, continue talking with her and keep your fingers crossed.
Here is a good URL for the jealousy, trust problem:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com