i dont want to give up no matter what

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi George,
it is me again, I emailed and asked about the chance to get back with my ex, and u said he is using me, so i should move on. It has been long time, but....... I still miss him. I called him in october but he didn't call back for 2months. He called me last month and told me that he was working in new york at the moment, and he missed me. lol. I was disappointed and out of towm, so decided not to call back when I get back home, but I kept crying for the whole month.
last saturday, I saw him by chance on subway, and there was a girl sitting next to him. I was not sure whether she was his girlfriend, so i didnt talk to him. the next day, I couldn't stand being quiet and called him. I told him that I saw him on subway and he was with a girl, and asked if she was his girlfriend in a fun way and said good for him. He said what girlfriend, and asked whether she was an asian. He pretended to be busy and said he would call back, so I hung up. But of course he didn't.
all ppl around me and u said I should move on, he is not a good guy, he s not worth me sth like that etc. I don't know why i cant.
I stop crying after seeing him. I am thinking whether I should let him go as long as he is happy, or keep in touch with him, and wait.
I am going to apply a job as a research assisstant, I want to get some advice from him for the job and graduate school. I have written the email, just simply ask him questions in formal language, but I am afraid that he ll feel bothered. I dont have to ask him though, maybe he ll think weird......., should I take this first step and act like a friend? or totally give up?
thx for helping

RomanceClass.com Advice
My advice is the same as the last time.

Forget this guy as he is not serious about you. He doesn't call you for a long time and then doesn't return your call or tell you the truth about the subway.

Don't feel like you are bothering for asking for advice. He will probably feel flattered that you asked.

But, in the long run you should leave him behind.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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