Just Mind Games Or Something More

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Dearest George,

I apologize for the length...

So there is this guy that I have liked for quite awhile now. I met him last year when he was a senior and I was a junior. We had a weird relationship near the end of the school year. We flirted through text messages and he asked me to prom. We never went because he had some personal problems that he needed to work out and he said that he didn't feel the same way at the time. It all led to this back and forth messaging on Myspace...then we just didn't talk for a month. He would still smile at me in the halls and stuff like that. So then right before he graduated I wrote him a short story about how meeting him changed my life and I gave it to him. He really loved it and told me that it was the best gift he ever got. He wrote in my yearbook about how the story made him cry and he said that I was a very intriguing individual and how he would always be there to hold my hand when I'm scared or talk to me when I feel down. He signed it "love forever and with abounding faith in you" (He is extremely religious). So anyway we talked some after that and then over the summer we didn't talk except for a few text messages here and there. He went to college and I started my senior year at high school. I sent him a msg over myspace about how I missed him and the other people that graduated. He wrote back about how even though he wasn't with me he was there in spirit and some other philisophical stuff...at the end he said.."No matter what I will always love you". I saw him once at a football game when he came home...and then on New year's eve I went to a party. He was there. He pretty much hung around me the whole night. He gave me his jacket when I was cold and walked me to my car when I had to leave. Anyway just a few days ago I talked to him on AIM...It was really late and I was tired. I sent him this document over AIM about how I loved him and wanted to be a part of his life...So we talked about me liking him in an abstract way. He is really good at reading people so he said "When I get inside people I tend to stay there...you seemed to have really kept me there more then I was trying to stay". So I said I already know how all this is going to turn out and he said "most people do, especially in matters like this". The conversation lasted for three hours and it was like 3 am when he decided to go...so at the end of the convo he was like "I know we will talk again soon tho right" and I said "If you want to" and I explained how he had so many people in his life. The last thing he said to me was "I always make room for everyone. Especially those closest to me. So we will talk again soon. Until then goodnight."

So here is my question. Does it seem like he likes me or is he just playing mind games? Also what did he mean by the things he said in the AIM conversation? And what ever else you can gather from all this hoopla would really help me.

Thanks so much,


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It is clear that he is fond of you.

I don't think it extends to anything near love or infatuation. He doesn't seem to be playing mind games, just telling you how he feels. When he was at the New Year's Eve party you were the one he felt closest to and so he hung around you and walked you to the car.

He respects your love for him and is careful to try to please you, in a kind and comforting way. You might accidentally confuse his efforts to be a sign of love on his part, but it is very unlikely that it is.

Sorry you are in this position.

Good luck! George

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