Sending mixed signals yet
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I finally crossed paths with the girl that I met in October 2006 and breifly dated until November 2006.
She then broke it off by not returning contact with me after stating she always would respond to me. Anyway, when I saw her recently she seemed very excited and happy to see me. She is extremely shy and very very bashful. She does not have many friends at all. She keeps to herself, and does not talk to people that she does not know. We talked for about 10 minutes,and when I brought up the issue that happened between us in 2006 she seemed embarassed, and she sort of turned her head away from me and the conversation as if it has affected her in some way too. However I said that I was sorry for stressing her out, and when she heard this she seemed to relax a little. I asked her if we are OK and she said... YES! I asked if we could get together sometime this spring or summer and just hang out, and she said... sure. I asked if she still had my number, and she responded... absoulutly! She was a little red in the face, but nonetheless was happy to see me. She stopped everything that she was doing at the moment, and stood there and talked to me. She made no attempts to get away, or end the conversation. She still has not told me how she feels. She seems really scared of all of that. It seems to make her uncomfortable. It seems like she really needs friends, but I also think she needs love too. Standing there after all of this time (14 months) I realized that I love her now more than ever. However I downplayed all of that and I told her that I wasnt interested in the dating thing. That seemed to calm he down too. However I am, and I know I could find no better. I get a feeling around her that we are meant to be someday. Does she like me? Does she have strong feelings that she just is not sure about? I have known her since she was born. She is 29 and I am 34. I am truly and head over heels in love here, and I dont want to scare her with that. I am happy however that we are on good terms, and that we are friends. However I need advice on where to go from here. Please help!
She agreed to go out with you in the spring or summer.
Surprise her by asking her out to dinner and/or a movie. Keep the talk away from relationships since that seems to stress her out.
You need to take the lead and be confident. Don't let her shyness bother you except to avoid stressing her.
You are doing well now. Mixed signals is better than none.
It is unlikely she is seeing anyone else and everyone needs companionship.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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