shes starting to see someone but i want her back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Me and my ex wer together for a year. we met on holiday and fell in love straight away. we had great times together and loved each other very much. as with any relationship, we had ups and downs but we recovered from them.
However, 6 months ago she became pregnant and i had advised her on getting an abortion and it caused big arguments. she had an abortion and im ashamed of myself at the way i acted. so much so that when she asked me back i said it wasnt the right time. we spoke and txtd everyday and met up alot aswell. then, a couple of months after that i asked her back and she said no and that she had no feelings for me anymore.
we still kept in contact everyday and i was showing her how much i cared by helping her through really difficult times and she said she wouldnt know what to do without me. i was biding my time to tell her how i felt again and to see what would happen. just a couple of days ago she said she was falling for another guy (shes 24 in 4 months and hes just turned 18)and that they are going to start going out with each other.
I dont know what to do. she likes him because he didnt seem 2 give up over the year hes been liking her. i dont want to give up either, what should i do? im paying for half of her car (something we agreed 2 months ago that i saw as a good sign) i am determined not to give up as you have to fight for love and i know she is the one for me. how should i react?
please help, thanks
Keep doing what you are doing.
She will get tired of the 18 year old soon enough and then will realize that you stood by her throughout. She won't forget that you are paying half of her car either.
Just as you realized that you still loved her, she may come to the same conclusion. Don't be too aggressive or it may drive her away. Ask her if you can still do things together as friends...dinner, movies, etc.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com