What's up with this girl?...Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
my exgirlfriend's 16 and I'm 20. we met 4 years ago, started going out 3 years ago, and went out for 2 years. during those 2 years, we had been on and off about 8 times. in the end, she broke up with me saying that she wants to be single. 6 months later, i discovered that she went out with some guy (16) less than 1 week after our last breakup and that lasted less than 2 weeks. then 6 months after that, Thanksgiving Day, she came to my house. when I was sitting by my computer, she sat right behind me in the same chair, hugged me, and cried. i turned around and hugged her back, asked her why she cried, and she said that there're things that she want but can't have. I didn't understand until she kissed me. she spent Thanksgiving with my family and spent the night at my house. when she went home the next day, I thought about all the pain and misery that I had tolerated during my relationships with her. the very night, i said to her that i just wanted to be friends. 1 day later, she came over at night. when I thought she was asleep, I tucked her blanket in. then she just grabbed my sleeve, pulled me in, and put her arms around her. After a while of resisting her hold, I just fell for her again. 3 days later, her cousin discovered about us. 3 days later, her cousin and her came over. that night, her friend (guy, 20) came to my house, picked up her up, and they went to eat. hours later, i called her and realized that she's having dinner with her "friend"'s family. her cousin spilled the fact that that guy's another 1 of her exboyfriends (their relationship lasted less than a week). that very night, i broke up with her. a few days later, I ran into her at a store, so she came over to my house later again. when I walked her home, she asked me out again saying that if i do, she'd change. I said no. for the next 3 days, she had been smoking. her cousin knew but didn't want to talk to her. therefore, I met up with her and had a talk about her negativite personality. she said she had been having suicidal thoughts and being hopeless. then she brought out the subject that she like me and I don't. when she was about to leave, i pulled her and kissed her. that moment, i thought that we are permanently paired. 1 week later, when I gathered her and my friends up to watch a movie, she acted like we are nothing but friends throughoutthe whole day. I got frustrated, refused to hug her at the end of the day, and didn't talk to her for 1 week. On Christmas Day, I met up with her and had 1 final talk (also to give her a gift), she said that she like me but she said she's not ready for a relationship. Since then, we never talked again. her cousin's the closest and only person I can talk to about this and even her cousin said that she's a "ho". So please tell me, what's up with this girl?...
She is confused about you, herself, and life.
You would be well off cutting relations with her before she drags you down with her. Be gentle and kind, but make it clear that things will not work out between you two.
If she talks seriously about suicide, convince her to seek professional help like a doctor, a hot-line, any one to help her.
Good luck! George
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