We Used to Fight a Lot
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my ex dated for 3 1/2 years she broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. she said it was because we argued alot.
i do agree with that we did argue alot towards the end but it was over stupid stuff most of the time. and the times that we weren't fighting was great. i love her so much she knows everything about me she always knew how to make me smile. we even talked about getting maried alot.
since we broke up she has played some mind gamed with me. one day she told me she still had feelings for me and she would not kiss any other guys but me. the next day i accidently called her. i told her i got the wrong number and hung up. so she calls me the next day and ask if i want to meet her a burgur king for breakfast. i said yes but i would have to get dressed first. then she goes off on me about prank calling her. i told her i accidently called her which i did. she then tells me she does not want to see me now and by the way that had kissed a guy. she said she did not want me to call her very much anymore, and said we were over.
is this a lost cause?????????
You say things were great except the fighting - but the whole point of your fighting is that things were NOT great and that you were fighting as a result. The fact that you guys never addressed the real issue that was wrong is why you broke up. Obviously it wasn't the little things that were the "real problem". Something else big was bothering you guys and your stress about it just flared up over little things.
If you really want to get back with her, I would sit down and have a serious discussion with her about what really bothered you in the relationship. Not just the little fights, but the real issue. There must have been something seriously wrong there that you just never talked about. If you can finally discuss it you have a chance to solve it - but if you keep ignoring it, it can never be fixed.
-- from Jenn
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