Divorced with children
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
I have been seeing a 37 year old woman that has 3 children (18, 16, 11)for three months. She has been married twice with her last marriage being abusive. She has been separated from her last husband for 18 months and is getting a divorce that is taking forever to be complete.We have had a great time with each other and both have some very deep feelings toward each other. She has been feeling guilty because she is technically still married, and her two oldest children from her first marriage are upset with her for having a boyfriend and show their disapproval quite stongly towards their mother. We have not done anything with each other when the children are around out of respect for them. In fact, I have only met the oldest child once. My girlfriend recently decided to end our relationship because one, her divorce is not final, and two, she was tired of battling her children over the situation. I have respected and understood the situation, but would really like to continue the relationship, even if I have to wait for the divorce to be final. This happened three days ago, and she has asked me not to call. Keep in touch by e-mail, but carry on with my life, although I know that she has deep feelings for me because she said so. What can I do ??
The kids are probably upset because they are in prime dating time and they resent their mother dating too.
Tell her that you will wait until the divorce is final and then you should start dating again, after discussing it with her kids.
You would need to make close connections with the kids by going out for entertainment or even a short vacation.
Children should run a parent's life so she needs to get past that.
Good luck! George
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