Unbiased advice for breaking up
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have talked to many people about whether or not I should break up with my boyfriend or not. I am 19 years old and he is 22. We have been together for a little over a year now and I feel like things have been changing. I can't pin point it, but I feel like I am changing and wanting to explore life, in general, even if that means exploring relationships with others. When I am with him I feel like I love him, but when I am without him and at work, for example, I find myself flirting with co-workers and even developing feelings for them. So how is this love? I've tried to break up with him before, telling him all of this, however, we always end with "we'll try to work things out" because when i get to the point of actually leaving, I can't do it because I hysterically begin to cry and feel a lot of pain. I feel like I love him, but he's made me drift away from close friends, and he doesn't trust me if I go out or hang out with other guy friends. I really do care for him, but I honestly don't know what to do. We ARE only 19 and 22 and maybe there is something better for us out there, but maybe there isn't. Should I stay with him, or leave him?
Young women your age often feel the need to spread their wings.
This especially happens at age 21, but you are experiencing it early.
You should see what's out there. There is nothing in your letter to indicate that this relationship is a long, enduring "let's get married" kind.
If you can't tell him directly without getting hysterical then send him an email explaining why you can't tell him face-to-face.
Then get on with your life.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com