Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I met a woman in October 2006 for the first time. we actually knew each other our whole lives. I asked her out and she accepted immediately. Our moms have been friends for over 30 years. She is 28, and I am 34. We went outand had a great time. On our second date she said she had a headache, and she seemed stressed. Nonetheless she spent 3 hours with me. At the end of the date I asked her out again, and she became up and down with her thoughts. She said she was not sure if we had chemistry, was not sure where it was going, wanted someone else to come back to her. 3 years before this a person who knows both her and I suggested to my mother that we should get together. I saw her around allot after that and waited 3 years to make a move. At the end of this date I told her about this, and she seemed fine with it. I then asked again if she wanted to go out and she accepted. She then told me that her mother had a card that my mother sent to her when she was born in a baby album of hers. Her mother saved that card for 28 years. We then agreed to keep seeing each other, and she promised to always return my contact. We parted ways, and after that I tried to keep in touch with her 2 times. Once in Dec 2006 and I never heard back from her. I tried contact again 6 months later. No Responce. I recently found out from a mutual friend that she has no problem with me and was hoping that we were going to be friends. This girl is extremely shy and bashful. She has had allot of problems making and keeping friends over the years. However a year later I am still in love with her. I cant get her out of my mind. We have not spoken in over a year, and she works just a mile away from me. We live in a small rural town. I guess there has been no opportunity to run into each other. Should I try to contact her again, and how should I do this. I really care about her. I need some advice.
It is the holiday season, and she should be relaxed and ready to go out with you again.
Call her and ask her out on a date. When you are on the date, ask her why she never replied to you last year. At your age, both of you should be able to talk openly and sincerely. If she says again that there is no chemistry then accept that as a dismissal and forget her. If she replies positively then contact her again within a week so she doesn't think you have forgotten her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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