Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
so i am a 22 year old girl that met this 24 year old guy on craigslist. we've basically been dating for about 5 months now, although it doesn't seem that long as we only get to hang out about once a week. (he lives an hour away) and comes to my area on weekends.
recently, i asked him what was going on between us, like if he considered me as more than a friend (it was so difficult to do!) and fortunately, he responded back that he did. he did mention some concerns about the distance factor and how i plan to attend graduate school sometime soon.
so my question is basically this, i now know that he does like me, obviously, but where do i go from here. i've had horrible previous relationships and just ended a 4 year relationship about 8 months ago and me and this current guy are definitely taking it slow which is good and a first for me! but... i have a big fear about messing up what we have or getting hurt. is he ready for a relationship? or do you think this "more than a friend" just means that we have the potential for something more and he is just not ready. i don't want to rush into anything or screw anything up, but now that our feelings are basically on the table i feel awkward asking for more clarification on our status.
also, we tend to mostly communicate over email and AIM, sometimes we will text message each other, but is this a bad form of communication, or is this the new "trend" with online dating and completely appropriate? sometimes i feel as though waiting for his screen name to pop up onto the screen is kind of lame, especially when i feel hurt when he might not talk to me (although that is quite rare). please help! i sometimes feel like i should get the book "dating for dummies".
At your ages and distance my advice is that you use the telephone for communicating.
AIM and email and text are fine but are not intimate enough for a strong relationship.
Take things slowly. You aren't ready to rush into a new relationship at this point. Keep working at it and see where it leads. You and he may become a wonderful couple or things might not work out. Easy does it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com