I dont know how l feel.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I hope someone can help me lm really stuck. I want to thank you for anyone who reads this.
So basicly l have known this guy for around 10 months. We got really close over the INTERNET. He lives far away and is 4 years older than me. We have since we met talked most days and if not we find other ways to talk .. eg text.I would consider him my best friend but have sometimes thought of him more than a best friend and more of a boyfriend.He is a very important person in my life and he says l am to him.We used to sometimes act like a couple ... in different ways .. we call eachother baby etc.
Nothing can ever happen l know this but it doesnt help. He would always randomly text me or say that he misses me if we havent spoke.
Lately this has changed. He doesnt do this anymore. He keeps going on about this new girl he has met. He puts her in his msn name,goes on about her all the time. He has said a few times he isnt coming on msn,yet for some reason he has come on. Its like he comes on for her. and she is the one he misses and loves and like lm forgotton.
I have told him that l dont know how l feel about him and told him l get jealous.He said that l will always be his best friend and a few other things but awhile ago l brought the jealousy thing up again and he said that he cant cope with this and he is fed up with me picking on things all the time.
I feel like whenever he is on the internet he is on for her, he goes to bed when she goes and everything he does is for her. But this is how it used to be for us. Its like l have been replaced.
I dont know what to do.
I get depressed whenever he mentions another girls name specially this girls name.
He knows this so he skips any questions l tend to ask him .. like when l ask how come his online when his meant to be out and what is he busy doing... him skipping it then makes me paranoid its because she is on.
Its like he doesnt need me anymore.
I cant just try and forget him or become less closer . That is not possible. I dont know what else to do though.
He either makes me very very happy or very depressed. he is the only person in the world who can change my mood so easily.
If you cannot try to forget him, then you will need to persist and contact him often.
Do not bring up your jealousy or depression, or if you feel you must then do it very infrequently and gently. He is living his own life and that is his right. Having an Internet only relationship is usually a dead end.
Take this opportunity to talk with other men and see how you feel about it. Very often this will take your mind off your current love. At least give it a try.
Stop asking him questions about other girls or why he is online... that makes you appear jealous and insecure. This is not attractive behavior. Keep your chin up and make sure you take good care of yourself physically, intellectually, socially, emotionally, and spiritually.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com