Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi again. I asked the girl I like out and she asked me "Where are we actually going with this relationship?" Well, I told her that I like her a lot, and she said we gotta talk. We met at my house and she told me, that she doesn't know what to do. She her life is so busy, and I would only suffer if we were together. Then she said that we should stay close friends, because I'm "a friend, worth to be with". I was ok with it, though it was pretty sad, because I like her a LOT. I asked her if we could later be together with me, but I didn't get any clear answer, but that's ok. Then we talked there about stuff, before she had to go home.
Well, anyway doesn't being a friend still mean we can spend time together. We seldom speak face to face, and in school she doesn't really come talk to me, even though I'm sometimes alone sitting there. I'm pretty shy to go talk with her in front of her friends, that's why I don't go talk to her. Do you think I could still someday be with her? I'm just afraid, that when we graduate, will we get apart forever.
It's also christmas (and her b-day) coming and I decided to ask her to go with me in a restaurant. Is that a good idea?
Sure, the Holidays are a perfect time for improving relationships.
Make sure you ask her out "as a friend." She should be delighted.
Keep it light, enjoy yourselves, and relax. Remember, you only get to go around once in this life so you might as well enjoy it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com