Am i being used?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There is this girl that I see every Saturday. I used to hate this girl when I was small but everything changed about 3 months ago. I'm two years older then her and we dont go to the same school but I see her every saturday. I started talking to her and I didn't feel anything for her at first but everything changed. She had a boyfriend and then she broke up with him but then she hasnt talked about him for months. Since the last 3 months, we started talking and flirting. She smiles and looks into my eyes everytime I talk to her. I try avoiding sometimes but she seems to come to me all the time. I notice that her body language is completely different and her attention changes when I talk to her. She gives her entire attention to me everytime we talk. She leaves her group of friends so that we can talk about stuff in private. Everytime I talk to her I smile and look into her eyes. I listen to every word that she says and she tells me that im good at that.
Last week I found out that she likes (white guys)!!!! I dont get it..Last week my friend called me and told me that she met some other guy but she doesn't know if she likes him. Then I find out that she has somewhat little feelings for her ex!!I feel like im being used because we've been so close for 3 months. She even told me that I was cute and I've been the best gentelmen. Since Im two years older then her, I feel as if Im being used by her. But its so strange because she acts as if she loves me. She ignores her friends just so that she can talk to me. I get angry and jelous through the week but when I see her she possesses me! She seems innocent to me but I dont get what she wants. Im not white and she's wierd. Sorry for the long letter but I need your help.
The answer is easy to say but harder to do.
What you should do is to starting talking with her about these things that are bothering you. You will probably get to the bottom of the problems pretty quickly if you both are honest.
She seems to like you a lot and will probably be happy to discuss things with you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com