I need help on what to do
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My ex and I recently broke up, and it was because of me, and i realized that i made a big mistake. So i wanted to show her that everything will be alright again, but i have figured out what it is that i want, and it is her. It was one of those things like "dont know what you got until it is gone" you know, those types of things. Well i made her very upset with me but says she wants to get back together. She just said that she needs time. But we talk and keep in touch, and both miss each other very much, and we want to be back together, but she wont be cuz she doesnt want to get hurt again. However, during the time we were broken up she went out with her sister and met a guy. They made out and little more that night, but didnt have sex. She said that they are just friends and i want to believe her. But everytime i get her on the verge of wanting to be back together, she goes and hang out with him, and then everything is lost. For example, i asked her if she would want get together earlier today, and she said that she was 99% sure that she wants to get back together, and then at work, since we work with each other, we got on the subject of that, and i asked her, and she said that by tomorrow we will be together. Then she got off work, and went and hung out with that guy, and then she was acting everything is lost for me. I have a feeling that she likes him, and she says that she doesnt, and that she wants to be with me. But every time she hangs out with him, she acts like she doesnt want to get back together anymore. So i dont know what to do, can you help me?
She may be punishing you for breaking up with her. Making you feel the pain and worry that she felt. She may be doing this without realizing what she is doing.
Let her know that you are feeling pain and maybe she will eventually relent and take you back. Be honest about how you are feeling because she will detect any falseness.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com