Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hello so im stuck cause im talking o this guy whos life just isnt together.hes explained when iv tried to end it that he is just trying to get everything together and all he wants is a relaxed life with mein his life together we both told eachother we are not going after anyone but eachother and i said aslong as ur talkin to me as much as u can im happy .. but he lost licence and his phones disconnected and everything messed and anyway of talkings cut off so i sent him a email saying im not comforatable being in this situation and i dont want to give up on you but cant have it on my mind when ur lifes like that and he is free to go after whoever he wants .. a few days later i talkd to him on the computor and he got all mad and was liek so i guess all that stuff you ever fed to me was bullshit eh and i said no just dont want to put my feelingstowards you when u live so far and as i was leaving he was liek well i live 40 minutescloser to you my computors fixed and i got my license back so hope ur happy with ur decisions..and i was just liek well younever no if ppl mean the stuff they say andseems like were just waitin for one of us tosay its to late he said well i dont give up till the day i die and im not everyone and mean everything i say believe it ornot and i told you im not looking for n e 1 else and would never do taht to u but u dont care..i then felt bad and was liek ya i do care and said i do meanshit i say and yu deserves someone to be there and not give up to and he was liek well i hope u mean this and arnt just sayin it for the hell of it and i was liek no id never do that to someone and was liek if u mean everything it will always be thatway and he said trust me i dont change my mind easily so u have nothing to worry aboutthen talked to him asked how he likes livin where he is he was liek its okay soon im gna move back with my dad i think(which is 10 minutes to where i live) and get a car so everything will be better for you and i.. now i havent talked to him for over a week because really it wasnt together liek he said i feel kinda tricked.i no he is having a hard time but dont understand why he wont just let me go ?.and i feel so stuck because its like if i was with another guy i would feel bad because hes told me he loves me.but we cant be together ? i need to say something to him because idont like where it is with you think i should wait it out because its not liek i like any other guy and trust what he says? i no im not gettin what i deserve from him but he has me so stuck because its liek hes saying it would be like that but it cant because the stuff that is happening.what should i do ? and if i do say anything it will be email because hats the only way . could you give me some tips on what to write? Advice
Your situation is not an easy one and I am sorry for that.

My advice is to wait it out because he does seem to be trustworthy and you aren't interested in any other guy. If things improve then you will be happy you made this decision.

If for some reason he can't get his act together, then you will have a hard choice to make. You know you deserve better so you can't wait for him forever.

Why not choose a time like one month or two months to see if things are heading in the right direction?

Good luck! George

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