feelings for a close friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i known this girl for over 6 year and we use to be best friend about 2 years ago untill i told her that i was having strong feelings for her. she dint have the same feelings for me, so she gave me space and we stopped being best friends for about a year. now i just broke up with my ex and she broke up with her. we started hanging out again like we use to and we talk about everything and we are really close friends again but i still have feelings for her. i would like for her to have the same feeling for me but i don't want the same thing that happened in the pass to happen again
what should i do
The safest thing is to do nothing and keep your friendship.
Next safest is to tell her you are "developing feelings" for her and see what she says.
Also, make yourself more attractive to her by improving yourself physically (dress, grooming, working out); emotionally (share feelings, be affectionate, smile/smile/smile/smile); socially (be friends with her family and friends); intellectually (get good grades, know what's going on in the news); and ethicallly (be courteous, honest, respectful, sincere).
Nobody can improve themselves completely, but the effort will make you feel better about yourself and thus others will value more highly too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com