why is this happening?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
well i got two best friends..well somehow the both of them its like i'm not in their world anymore...and somehow they had their own...and somehow they're not noticing me unless i go to them myself...somehow it hurts...coz...they're like my best friends and we're like the three amigos..well the both of them are guys and i'm the only girl....well one of them fell for me...and somehow his love died...and somehow after that....its like i'm nothing anymore...after the destruction of love destroyed our closeness (bestie is the friend that fell for me and kuya is the that it didn't)...my bestie...said that he still wants to be besties....and especially get our closeness back...well this past few weeks...the both of them like what i've said...its like their secluding their world from me...as if i'm not there in the circle of friendhip anymore....and somehow its killing me...i already sent a letter to my bestie..actually it was just this morning...and it frustrated me...coz somehow after awhile i got curioused...coz nothing is still happening..and knowing them especially kuya...they'll do something...and lo and behold nothing happened so i went to them myself...i asked kuya...so did you read the letter...and he told me what letter...so it really got me mad coz i sent it to my bestie...so i went to my bestie and asked him...where's the letter...he said in my office...and that really made me frustrated...!!!! and somehow because of that i punched him...coz my anger got over me...and now....somehow i don't know what to do and why they're doing this to me...especially my so called lover..(in the past...)...especialy him...i can exclude kuya coz he wasn't able to read the letter....and now i'm really mad...so why are they doing this to me? i didn't even do anything...actually now i'm always alone coz they're not even thier like what i've said...they secluded away from me...so what should i do?...its killing me and now i really need help...ASAP...
Triangles don't usually work out. You are lucky your's was ok for a while.
If you want to try to get the three of you back together make some suggestions for activities. You might invite them over to make cookies some evening or weekend afternoon. Or try going to a movie.
Getting mad at them or punching them isn't going to do any good. You have to be sweet to them. The mistake, as you now know, was having two of you being close together. It sort of boomeranged back into them being closer.
Maybe the Holiday season will bring feelings of good cheer for the three of you. I hope so.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com