Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
well ok here's the thing...we're besties...before we were beties he already likes me....and somehow after sometime i also fell for my best friend but he doesn't know about htat until just four weeks ago...well the thing is he failes me thrice...he told me i don't love youa anymore than after three days he came back again saying i wanna love you again..the 2nd time is i don't love you anymore coz love hurts...and please just don't remind me about love...then again said i love you again after 2 weeks... just this past weeks he told me again...that he just wants me as his bestfriend...coz he's not ready and stuff...and those past few days he was just pretending to love me because he's afraid that he'd lost me...somehow it really hurt me alot...and just this last 3 weeks i broke our friendship coz i was tired and such and he fixed it again after 5 days...or so...but he's kinda...not willing...then after one week...he's like he's still in to me...he's getures...he even protected me then laid on my lap...and said " i could just lie here the whole day"..and such...then he told me last last thursday that he chose not to move one know just this past week he told me that he kinda moved on and he's unsure....and now his unstableness is killing me...coz he kept changing he's mind...even in moving on to...so should i still keep the friendship?does he still love me?i bet not not...do you think its wiser to keep the friendship? or not...what should i do? i really need help...coz now i'm totally scared...and unstable and i really don't know what to do...then now somehow he's different really different to that guy i met before and now he turned into a monster and i'm really scared and i really need help!!! so please help me....T-T....its killing me...T-T...
Unfortunately you have lost a best friend.
You are being hurt by the way he is acting. It is in your best interest to drop him and not see him at all for a while. If you want to tell him why then go ahead and tell him. If he asks then tell him.
Don't be surprised if he wants to be either a boyfreind or best friend. You have to figure out how to answer those questions so you are not caught by surprise.
Think about it right now. Would you be willing to be his best friend? Yes or no. Would you be willing to be his girl friend? Or maybe you have conditions like you will only be his best friend if you never talk about being romantic again. Whatever you think of. It's up to you...it's your life.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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