Don't know what to think
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I don't know if you can really help, but it's worth the try. I know a guy from quite some time now. The thing is, it's always me who send mails to him. We see eachother about once or twice in a month, no more than that. But, the times we see eachother he's really charming and listens to what I have to say. Last time we saw eachother was at a party. We danced close together (some slows) and he looked sometimes deep in my eyes and we laughed a lot. But at the same party he talked to other girls too and danced with them (not close). He told me that I'm a really nice girl and he likes to talk to me. When we meet at his/my house or at a bar we talk a lot, we also look at a film together and he once also asked what I thought of his swimming shorts for his upcoming vacation. So he's really friendly to me.
On the other hand, i think if he really was more interested, he would do some more effort to contact me or something (why is it always me who has to take initiative?). I don't know what to think... When we're together everything seems nice, but afterwards we won't see eachother for quite some time (sometime a month). Is he just being nice? Is he just not prepared for romance and thinks of me just as friend?
I don't know what you think and if you can help, but maybe it helps me clear my mind a bit. Thank you!
I think you are right that he is not prepared for romance and thinks of you just a friend.
When you are together there is a good connection, but not enough for him to want to pursue it further.
Why not ask him?
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com