Should I move on?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I was with a boy for almost 2 months and it was one of the happiest relationships of my life. I was even with someone for over a year, but I never felt this the way about anyone. It's been almost a week since we've broken up. I never saw the break up coming. We never argued and I felt like everything was perfect. His main reason for breaking up with me was that he lost feelings for me. He now says that he only finds me attractive and that he has no feelings for me except as a very close friend. The day after we broke up he told me that he loved me which in turn made me very confused. Also when we broke up he asked if we could remain close friends and that maybe in the future there would be a time for us. For the past week we talked all the time at school and on the phone. We even hung out for like 20 mins. which caused us to hug, flirt, and act how we did when we were dating. I made the mistake of calling him crying a few times, but he never seemed mad, instead he was sympathetic and sad. Today he told me that we need to stop talking because the more he talks to me, the less he likes me. I know seperation brings people together so does he want to not talk to me and like me again? And also, there is a dance coming up in less than a month and he has repeatedily stated that he is going with me. Does he realize that the dance may bring us closer together? and lastly he flirts with me all the time and his emotions show that he is confuesd. He has even told me that he isnt sure if this is what he wants. Am I being played? does he want to be just friends? or does he deep down have feelings for me? I do know that he likes no one and that no one likes him so i have no reason to worry about that aspect yet.
You've only been broken up less that a week.
It's too early to know what he really thinks or how he feels.
Keep on hanging out and talking with him. He sounds like he is still very interested in you. He also sounds very confused so don't try to figure him out because he probably doesn't know what he wants himself.
Hope things work out! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com