Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
So there's this guy in my band hour in school. At the beginning of marching band season, I'd flirt w/him, he'd flirt back, and I'd feel cool doing it because I wasn't nervous around him. I only liked him as a friend sorta. But over the weeks, I started seeing him in a new light and I grew attracted to his mannerisms and his looks. More and more I'd get nervous around him and clam up around him, and now he's used to me being quiet around him in marching band as well as in our band hour. But now, I feel like I'm emotionally ready to be myself w/him. I've learned that I shouldn't feel pressure to be myself w/any guy I like. No guy is worth keeping myself from feeling free, if you get what I'm saying. I'm just worried how to exactly break the ice, to transition from being shy around him to just being myself and having fun with him. I'm also worried about how he'd take the transition, if he won't know what to think and just give up trying to figure me out and blow me off for good. So to put it short, my question is: How should I break the ice in a way that won't be awkward for either me or the guy?
Just take it slow.
Don't start all of a sudden going right back to your flirty self. Day-by-day increase your flirting so that after a week or so you are back to your old self. He will love it once he realizes that you are for real.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com