Everything's gone to hell...
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I know it hasn't been a week since I last asked a question here and I'm not even sure if this is in the right category, but my life's gone to hell and back an I don't know what to do.
Earlier this week, I got some advice to print off my question and send it to the girl I love and that she'd hook up with me again. She read it in class, started frowning and she passed me a note back. The only thing that was on it was "Stop it. Goodbye."
Needless to say, I was crushed and tried to ask her what I had done wrong. After all, I was only trying to prove that I love her and that I'd wait for her if need be. She simply said that it wasn't my fault, it was hers and that I was making this a big deal. Then, when I asked her what she wanted me to do, because I'd do anything she wanted at the time, she told me she'd never get what she really wanted and walked off.
We've spoken since, but the relationship is so strained it's not even funny. I'm not too good at interpreting things, but it seems like she wants to sever all ties with me. I don't think I could live through that.
What do I do? Listening to my hart has put me through every hell imaginable and I'm about ready to give up...
Let things rest for a while.
Obviously she wasn't ready to get together with you so you need to wait a bit.
We all need to improve ourselves. Take this opportunity to do it. Take care of yourself physically (conditioning, hygiene, dress); take care of yourself mentally (read, get good grades); take care of yourself emotionally (share your feelings with friends and family); take care of yourself socially (join clubs or teams). In other words take an active role in how you are as a person. This will make you feel better about yourself and she will also feel better about you. You can't do this overnight, but step by step.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com