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I wrote about a week ago asking how to find closure w/an ex from 6 years ago. We share nieces. The advice reply suggested a letter, but as luck would have it, we ran into eachother 1 on 1. I cornered him and told him that I wasn't mad at him & he said he knew that & he should get over it, but he still feels awkward around me. He has a new excuse every week as to why he can't be around me. The latest 1 is that he feels weird around me w/o his wife there. He is doing everything he can not to deal with this. I believe it's not about us, it's about the kids catching on to our deal. Is he just a big wimp or is it guilt...we ended on VERY bad terms. Do to his infedelity with his present wife.
I feel that he should atleast give me the respect to listen & not run away. The extreme measures he goes thru to avoid me is really irrational & obvious. I'm very laid back...he knows that.Why is he acting like such a weiner? I need this closure for myself & our nieces. Please help!
My suggestion was to write him a letter.
That's still my advice. Explain that you understand that he is hesitant to renew your friendship but that all you are looking for now is just a simple hello/goodbye relationship. If you can get him to agree to that then something different could evolve.
After six years it may be too late to expect closure. I think you should settle for a "not running away" friendship. He is strange.
Good luck! George
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