she is so confusing
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
now i've met this girl a few yrs ago and we made friends but i was closer to her other friend which i have a feelin that she thinks i liked her instead. however when i tried to call her friend to hang out and bring her as well they would always decline. a yr after i was in the class with the girl i wanted and we had a lot of time to talk. she would stay quiet and not have much to say. i asked her for her number and she gave it to me. on the last day of school i was a senior, she told me she had a new number so i asked her for it and she gave it to me. she also messaged me congrats on my graduation day. i talked to her several times on the phone until she just stopped picking up. during college i would come by the school once in awhile to see if i could at least just catch a glimpse of how she is. when i finally talked to her after my fifth or so time there, she seemed to know how many times i've been there and she's seen me. also her sister never knew me before in high school and once i hit college (After i talked to her) her sister looks at me like she knows me and when i was with another girl she would stare at me. even when i was on a date with another girl one of her friends that i normally am cool with gave me a evil glare and busted out her phone while walking away. later i was with another girl but my friend that normally gives his sister and her a ride home told me to call her so i decided to. we talked for approx 10 minutes and she asked what made me call her and she seemed cool and more talkative this time than she was before. the 2nd time i called we talked for half an hour then she got a call and asked if i wanted to hold on or have her call me back, so she called me back because i had to go up the elevator. she mentioned bad things about her friend that i think she thought i liked. also that she wanted to leave for college. i try to get her to stay and she tries to get me to transfer to out of state college. she would seem happy also when i tell her that i'm not out partying and sad when i tell her i am. she would ask advice from me about life and college. i also did mention how one of my friends is dating this girl and they r inseperable because he kept trying for her until she gave in and now they r deeply in love. she would also talk about how some guys hit on her but talk bad about them. she would also make fun of her own appearance at times since she is short and looks young. also her friends r starting bad habits that she was getting pressured into and asked me if i've tried the same, and i responded no to giving in the peer pressure. she seems to trust me a lot cuz when we both talk at the same time she would tell me to say what i had to say. we seemed to connect really well and we ended up talkin for almost 2 hrs this time. all seemed great but now she stopped picking up her phone when i call. i would leave her a message to call me back and call her a few times a week but she won't return my call or answer it. she did tell me she was busy with ACT so that explained the first week but now it's the 2nd week and she's still not picking up. what is going on does she like me? is she testin me? help plz lol none of my female and male friends seem to understand this either. she is a very scared girl of many things and seems to value my advice and if it helps her friends and sister don't like me i think lol even though i don't know them lol. sorry for the essay i normally give advice to my friends but it's always harder giving urself advice lol
There is a good possibility that she gave in to peer pressure and is ashamed to admit it to you.
That would explain why she isn't returning your calls.
On the other hand, she may have just tired of you and doesn't want to tell you because she is afraid to.
The only way to find out is to talk with her and get to the bottom of it.
Ask her out to dinner or something.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com