i screwed up and she likes another guy
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok so i had a girlfriend for almost 8 month's and it seemed like we were destined to be together forever, my step dad has known her dad for almost 30 years, we have many other times when we or other's related have a connection of some sort. so anyway. everything way fine for the first 6 months, we always hung out and i went to the beach with them and camping and i stayed at their house for a month when my rents left for awhile... but just in the last month's thing's changed, she was always upset and she cried allot, then she told me she wanted to take a break. i asked her why and she told me just because so i said ok... then a week later she starts school again and she tells me she doesnt want to go back because she is afraid she will end up liking someone else. so 2 weeks in and she is telling me she loves me with all her heart but she wants to be single, i asked her why and she said she just wanted to live her life and we were to serious, i asked her what she meant and she said that she just couldnt take it. so after much prying and much investigating i asked her what was the reason, i found you! she said it was because it was to physical, she couldnt take the constant cuddling and kissing and all of the sexual stuff either, she said she wanted someone who would be less physical and serious so i told her i could change and she gave me a task that made no sense, i asked her for a second chance and she wont give it and i have just made her more mad and sad and she also likes another guy, i need to know what to do i am ready to die because i am so lonely. she was the only girl who ever actually loved me back and i miss her so much. if there is anything you can do to help me please let me know, i am only making the situation worse
i cant eat the food just does not go down and i cant sleep.
i am always lonely and i cry all the time
You say she gave you a task that made no sense. Could you try to make sense of it (or write back with more details?) That might be the second chance that you want (the task.)
Basically she said you were too clingly and physical so that's your first clue as to how to change. Being lonely, not eating, not sleeping, crying... these are all natural reactions to missing her. But if you can't get over her then they are signs of clinginess and will push her away from you.
So, if you want her back, don't beg or ask for second chances. Change yourself so you are attractive to her and she will ask you for a second chance. This means you will have to perk up and be happy around her, as hard as it seems. Let her know that you aren't so dependent on her and maybe she will come around. It's the best chance you have.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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