Lovers to Friends
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my ex were together for about a year and a half. we both agreed that those years were the best time. The relationship went sour because i had let my insercuritys get into the way. we were on and on after that. The break ups were bad but the make ups were beautiful. anayway were offically had broken up 4 months ago. He had moved on and i was hurt cause he didnt take him that long to move on, but it took me nearly 3 months to move on. I had started datin someone in the 4th month and it was great untill i starting noticed how it was just like my old relationship but instead i was my ex and the other person was me. I wasnt happy cause i was still getting over my ex and being reminded on how i acted wasnt making anymore easier. During that month i had started to talk to my ex again just to wish him a happy birthday and we started talkin as friends but my current boyfriend was not to trilled about it and didnt not approoved so i stoped talking to my ex untill the relationship was over. Once the relationship was over my ex called me to say happy birthday and we were talkin for about 7 hours straight, we had alot to say to each other for 1 i apologized for how i acted in the relationship because it came back to me in the latest 1 i really saw how i treated my ex and didnt like it cuase he was good to me and i was a bitch. anyway the conversation eneded up leading to our first moments we each other and talking about what went wrong , moments that were beautiful.We both came to the conclusion that we were still madly in love wit each other and need to take it slow. I said we need to be friends first because i think a good friendship could beneifit a better relationship so we agreed. we have been talkin for about two weeks straight everyday all day but his ex had called him wantin to have him back and since hes in another state for 1 more month said he was going to try it out again wit me.But just as i thought we were fixing everything developin a friendship, creating a bond someone comes along and wants to take him. I dont know what to do cuase we both have feelings about it but he said he is scared wit me a doesnt know i dont know what to do , do i let someone take him, do i fight for him but im scared of loosin him to someone and to make it worse the person that wants him looks JUST LIKE ME exacly expect a little bit taller please ive been askin people but no one seems to know what to do
It sounds like you and your ex have something good worth preserving.
Make sure he understands that and that you still love him too. He needs to here that often since he is far away.
Tell him that it's only one more month and you'll be back together. He should be able to wait that long.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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