what do I do!?!?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My name is Jonathan & just recently my girl & I broke up. I never wanted it to end & when it happened I was shocked. I live in Colorado & she lives in Texas. So we were in a long distance relationship living in different states. We met over the summer when I went down there to visit my sister. Acually we met the very first day I got there, May 11th 2007. Then after that we started talking. A few weeks later we hooked up. She knew I wasn't from Texas but I told her I was going to be staying just for the summer & I let her know that I might have to go back home. I told her if things work out with my parents then I can just live with my sister until my parents move to Texas next summer. So the end of summer came & I didn't get what I wanted. Things didn't work out & I guess I had to go back home. Of course when I told her the news she was upset with it & I was aslo. There was nothin I could do about it though. Turns out she still didn't want to break up with me. I still didn't want to break up with her either. So we didn't. She knew that I was going to be back to live next summer. So thats when it turned into a "long distance" relationship. It was so so hard!!! I was with her from May to July then I left back home. We talked almost every day for over two months. Auguest, September, & October. She told me she wasn't going to give up on me. Then come October 11th. She broke up with me! So it was exactly 5 months that I was with her. I just don't know what happened though. She just changed all of a sudden one week. She didn't call me as much so I was wondering what was going on with worry all week. Then she finally called me & broke up with me. She said that it's not working out with her right now & that she's busy all the time. She can't call me as much as she wants to & she thinks it's best if we break up. I told her I couldn't believe she was doing this to me after all she told me. About not giving up & stuff. Then I said, so why did you once tell me you love me. If you loved me so much you wouldn't be doing this to me. She said, "We don't know what love is were only 16". I asked so you really didn't love me!?!? She said, "well I thought I did but I guess I really didn't". My heart just dropped when she said that. She said we can still be friends. Then I asked her one more question. I said, "So you want to be friends just for now or friends for good"!?!? She replyed, "for good". I was so upset I kind of got angry & said a few crazy things. I said, "I don't need a friend then whatever". I said a few last words then I just hung up the phone. So that's all how it ended. That's the last time we talked about 4 days ago but this is where i'm stuck & I have not just one but a few questions....
1. What do I do if she calls me???
I can answer the phone & talk to her & show her by the way I start talking to her that I'm really depressed without her.
I can let it go to my voice mail so she can know that I'm so upset I don't even want to talk to her.
2. I was thinking of getting a custom track made for her by a well known artist & sending it to her with a letter to her. Is this a good idea???
I'm not giving up on her that easy. I feel like if I have to I'll chase her cause she's the one I love. I really feel for that girl.
please help me out!
Give me some advice or something & answer my quiestions!!!
If she calls you answer the phone and make sure she knows you still love her. It won't do you any good to do anything else.
Sending the track and letter is a very good idea and you should do it as soon as possible. She will be happy to get them.
Why don't you call her? You are the one who behaved poorly the last time you talked so you should be the one to call her.
Think about it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com