Is it possible he may change his mind?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I moved in with him last March. Well we had an argument over something trivial. He told me to pack my bags and leave. Then he changed his mind and told me that I could stay as long as I needed to. he still needs a roomate. So basically he broke up with me. He said its been coming to this for a long time. He still loves me but he is tired of feeling like he can't do any thing.
I am guilty of getting jealous and upset because he has left me at home many nights by myself. I have been a nagger. I changed alot, due to a year of hell brought on from many issues that have nothing to do with my relationship. Anyways, I want him back. I have been giving him his space. I stay in another room in the house. I don't call him or text or email. He has called me a few times to ask me stuff. I just try to play it off like I'm busy. I try not to show that it bothers me, even though I cry myself to sleep each night. I still love him and we both admitted that we don't want to see eachother with someone else. he said that he would just deal with it though. What can I do to win him back and keep him if I do? Is it possible he may change his mind and give me another chance?
The first step of winning him back is to start talking with him again.
Next, make yourself attractive to him. This basically means taking care of yourself--making yourself the best YOU possible. This includes all the usual physical aspects: dress, grooming, hygiene; the emotional aspects: happiness, respect, trust; the intellectual aspects: knowledge, judgement, interests; and social aspects: friends, activities, religion.
These are a sample of things you can work on, or not if you disagree.
In the long run you will be more attractive to him and be a better person.
Finally, let him know you still care for him (don't beg).
He may change his mind.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com