What do i do when she is making me and her boyfriend like each other?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have had this best friend, like my whole life, we used to be real close, but then she started doing drugs and we sort of grew apart, we still say were best friends and we are happy when we get to see each other and stuff, but clearly she is pushing me away from her. She is really changing, her boy friend see's it to, who is also my friend. He talks to me about her, and what just drive's him crazy, normally i can relate, neither of us want her to change, or to push us away. The thing is, the more the pushes us away from her, the closer me and him become,He told me he needs someone that can make him happy, and he said he was starting to fall for another girl, so id always tell him to follow his heart and to do what it right, it's too bad that his girlfriend and my best friend was making him unhappy, we have hung out and stuff, but she never worry's about me and him, cause of the trust she has in me, and like how we are all friends in the first place, but then he told me, that it is ME he has been talking about all along (that new girl he has been falling for) and like it's complicated but, i am starting to fall for him to. it's like we need eachother to be happy, but we don't want to lose her in our life, but i have a big feeling she will hate me if me and him end up together, even if we take thingss slow, i love the girl and all, but me and him just seem's right, i mean.. one door closes, another door opens right? he's going to break up with her sometime this week. I don't know where to take it from there, please help me :/ ?
She will probably be super angry if he breaks up with her and then starts going with you.
My advice is to talk this over with her and see how she reacts. If she is really mad about it then you might rethink your idea of going out with him.
Either that or be ready to take a lot of grief from her.
Good luck! George
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