He's Pushing Me, I'm Not Really Interested
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi, i met this guy only once..and since then...he told me that he likes me very much...all my friends told me that he's cute...but somehow, I found that he's not my type....we met a couple times later...he wrote me peoms...and he seemed desperate in me...
My own friends even tried to persuade me to accept him or at least give him a chance...and said that he's the perfect guy for me...he got the looks, and the personality. Well, I told him that i'm not ready yet...he ask me to at least give him a chance...i dun know any other ways to reject him without hurting him....he's a sweet, romantic,type of guy...and I dun wanna hurt him in any ways....
One of the most important things you learn about a relationship is that it is solely about you and the guy. Friends can give good AND bad advice but in the end it's YOUR life you are leading and your decision. If this guy was a good friend and cared about you, he would NOT be pressuring you like that either. He would be there to talk to, to be a listener, but for him to be pushing you into making decisions is just selfish and wrong.
You are the only person who knows what is best for you. You need to get your friends to stop pushing you and this guy to stop pushing you. You're not ready, and that's how you feel! You don't have to justify yourself to anyone else. If they care about you, they'll respect you and your decision, and support you. If they keep pushing you because they think it's fun, they need to get a new hobby.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com