Trying to progress in budding relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I are both very shy, and this is the first relationship for eather of us, though both of us are 21. We've known one another for about a year, through work, and have been "going out" for 2 or 3 moths. But because of the fact that we're so shy, it takes us a long time for either of us to make a move... we've barely held hands and haven't kissed or anything. Part of the problem is that I have a hard time relaxing around him, and I get shy and nervous, like when we're playing in the pool, or kicking back. I know I need to get over myself already, but it's hard breakin out of my shell, so to speak. Plus, he tends not to act because, I think, he feels awkward... and a bit complacent. Anyway, I want to try to progress, I want to do things couples do, and I'm sure he does too. A setback is the fact that neither of us drives, and so dates are rather difficult (although I'm okay with it, he is adverse to riding the bus on a date), and so usually when we see eachother, it's at one or the other's house, or at work. I'm looking for advice on how to break us out of our shells, or to kind of gently push it along.
Tell him you talked to a "love adviser" on the internet.
Then show him a short list of the progress you both want: hugging a lot, kissing on the neck and cheek, kissing on the lips. Ask him if he is ok with trying to do this. Hopefully he will say yes. Tell him that he should start the hugging, you will start the neck and cheek kissing, and he will start the lip kissing. Try these one a week unless you get carried away.
After you get to lip kissing write out another list with what to do next. If you have trouble knowing what to do next, drop me a line.
Good luck! George
p.s. you could show him this email to break the ice.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com