Jealous about her past because she had videos

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male

I've read the articles on being jealous of past relationships and they have helped except for one thing. I know I shouldn't be jealous of past relationships/partners but the problem is that one day I saw a video that she had on her cell phone with her and another partner from her past and this really got me sick to my stomach and still bothers me. Is it abnormal to be very upset about this? Also, she had this partner's number still in her cell phone along with many other numbers of other guys. Also, she used to be a dancer in different strip clubs until she quit when we started our relationship. Some of these guys still kept trying to call her and we had an argument in which she decided to finally change the number. She says she loves me and I do believe this and I love her very much but how should I cope with this situation? Please give me some advice. We want to get married and start a family and I don't want these feelings of jealousy plaguing me throughout my life. Advice
You could ask her to remove the video and phone numbers.

But I suspect you would then find something else to be jealous about. You've got to figure that going with an ex-stripper brings a lot of baggage with it.

You need to deal with it and convince her that it won't be a problem or you are both in for some sad times ahead.

Getting rid of jealousy is hard work, so roll down your sleeves.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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