he just wants sex.....Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
since last june ive been having sex with a friend from university but from the beginnig we decided that it was gonna be just until we were gonna go back home for the summer so basically it lasted a month....
during the summer we were texting each other and then we met a couple of times and had sex again...
now is september and a few days ago i went back to university... had a big night out with my friends and obviously he was there... at the end of the night he was tired so he went back home but after 2 minutes he left i txted him and so he came over my house....
he kissed me and he said that this year he didnt want to have a girlfriend... and he liked being with me and he wanted thing to stay like that... and obviously he wasnt gonna get with anyone else but me.
i said that i was cool about it ...but just now i realize that i want more.
I mean im really pretty and i dont understand why should i waste my time with someone that doesnt wonna be my boyfriend!!! but i do really like him!!!!
Here's the question.. shall i keep having sex with him for another month so he gets attached and then tell him that i want something more, so i force him to decide? or tell him now about how i feel and if he says no, make him jealous flirting with another guy better looking then him??? or if you have better suggestions that would help...
I don't feel comfortable with advising anyone to play games to get what they want.
Both of your suggestions are forms of games and at the root dishonest. This is not to say they won't work...often they do. But, do you really want to base a relationship on trickery? Probably counterproductive in the long run.
My advice is to honestly tell him how you feel and deal with the outcome. As pretty as you are, you don't need to play games with him.
Good luck! George
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