I dunno anymore
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ive been writing to you for a while now... and this is the same girl. We break up and i feel like im doing good moving on, but she keeps calling me at my most vulnerable times. I didnt talk to her for about 8 months then she called me for my birthday and i didnt wanna answer her back so i didnt, it bothered me for a few months and i ended up calling her on her birthday and she wanted to get together, so we did, and it was great like we never missed a step, hung out a bunch of times since, beach, movies, drinks... but i just want her back but am afraid of pushing her away by bringing our relationship up. i use your method, 15 min a week (more like every 2 weeks). Im at witts end with this and wanna move on or be with her, and i just dont know how to approach things with her. What do you think? Be with her more often, call her more often?
You need to get this resolved so you don't keep getting yanked around.
As much as you might regret it, an honest talk with her is in order. Ask her out for dinner and bring up the subject of your relationship. If she is the kind of woman you need, she should be willing to openly discuss the situation.
Make it clear that you want to try one approach or the other. That is unless you are willing to settle for being good friends. If being good friends is an option for you then you have three directions to choose from. She has to be willing to be honest so you can make a decision.
This has been dragging on for a long time and you would feel better with some closure.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com